We hoped it was “just a phase” that we’d grow out of, but we wound up sleeping together until we left for college. Of course we felt guilty and ashamed, and we didn’t dare tell anyone what we were doing. After a couple of years, we realized we had fallen in love. When we were 12 we gradually started experimenting sexually with each other. We were always extremely close and shared a bedroom growing up. My fraternal twin and I (both men) are in our late 30s. Submit your questions and comments here before or during the live discussion. Got a burning question for Prudie? She’ll be online at to chat with readers each Monday at 1 p.m.

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